There’s nothing like a good wedding! I was in attendance at my fourth wedding of the year this past weekend. (Needless to say I have heard Corinthians 13:4 enough for a lifetime!) This last wedding was a ton of fun but once again my critical fashion critiquing sense was in full effect. There is no better time than now for me to write a blog post about wedding fashion etiquette. So here it is men who are not always sure what to wear on a wedding day, my take for men on
First and foremost you must look for guidance from the invitation and take into consideration the time of day and year for each wedding event. I can not stress how crucial this instruction is. Make no mistake; this is not a suggestion it is a rule. If the invitation states that the wedding is “Black Tie ,” “Black Tie Optional,” or “Formal Attire Requested” you better put on your Sunday Best. If the invitation does not indicate any of the three aforementioned options, you may want to ere on the side of caution and ask the bride or groom what they recommend. (Do not call them up the day before or even days before and ask them what to wear, they will be too busy to talk to you!) The most important aspect to consider is that you do not want to in any way upstage the bride and groom. You need to dress appropriately and conservative. If you show up under dressed or over dressed you will be directly insulting your hosts. Below are a few simple rules to consider when preparing your wardrobe for a wedding.
- Don’t be afraid to match your date. If your date is wearing a red dress maybe you want to wear a red vest or tie and so on.
- Unless you are the groom you are not wearing a tuxedo or black suit before 6PM
- No one wears cumber buns anymore so don’t even think about it
- Whether you are the groom or not, white jackets are only for the summer, dressing seasonally inappropriate is a major fashion Faux Pas
- While you never want to take away from the happy couple, have fun with vests, cuff links, and suspenders. These pieces will allow your personality to shine through without making a spectacle of yourself.
- If you wear a silk or satin scarf with your suit, you are a real class act
- Never wear a short sleeved collared shirt under your suit jacket…NEVER
- If you get hot and want to take your jacket off or roll up your sleeves a bit at the reception, that is OK, but that’s it. Do not take off your shirt or do anything drunk and funky like that. Remember you will be looking at the photos taken that night for the rest of your life and the photographers catch everything! Don’t do anything you’ll regret.
- Unless given to you by the hosts, do not take it upon yourself to wear a boutonniere
- Don’t even think about wearing jeans, sneakers, or hats, I don’t care how much you can dress them up
- Although I understand that servicemen have a dress uniform, if you wear it you are going to stand out and take attention away from the groom. Save your dress blues for the next Military Ball.
- Other people’s weddings are never the time for you to be fashionably experimental. You may not be invited to another event from the new couple again if you do so.
|Morning suit; conservative shirt and tie. (Ascot Optional)||Tuxedo or Black suit.|
|Dark suit or Dark Blazer with grey or light colored dress pants.||Dark suit.|
|Sports jacket or blazer paired with a dress shirt and slacks (tie optional)||Sports jacket or blazer paired with a collared button down shirt and dress slacks (tie optional)|
The above chart is a short and simple breakdown. If all else fails, get yourself over to a Men’s Warehouse, Brooks Brothers or even a Jos A. Bank and let the sales people guide you. And for you New Yorkers out there, check out this link.
Quick Aside: Special thanks to RM and RJM for their guidance and input for this post